Lorena's Epiphany

Playfulness in Relationships

February 24, 2010 at 4:16 pm 5 comments

Photograph by Christopher Wilson

A month into my dating sabbatical and I’m already starting to realize a few things. One of my best friends is betting me I won’t last, so if I do, I’m entitled to a professional massage (I have my eye on the Elixir Spa hehe) – but there was a catch: the sabbatical will last until April instead of March to make it more of a challenge.

The sabbatical is getting harder each week. It’s making me question what I want in my next relationship while also analyzing my former relationships. Whenever I get tempted or start to feel something for someone these days, I need to remind myself of the sabbatical. In that way it’s helping me control not getting overly-infatuated too soon while also figuring out if I can see myself actually dating that person. That’s the easy, healthy part. The not-so-easy part is when you feel a strong chemistry with someone and just want to go for it.

Some of the people I’ve spoken to about the sabbatical have asked: What if you meet the right person? Are you just gonna tell them to wait until April? I don’t have the answers to that yet and it has been in the back of my mind. My comfort lies in spending more time with anyone I may be interested in now before it gets to that point. Will he wait? Maybe, maybe not. And maybe then I’ll know if he’s worth it or not. It’s so very complicated and involves a lot of thinking where feelings are much easier to deal with. The sabbatical has made me much more objective. Is that how men approach relationships?

I’ve realized (and girls back me up here) is that the dating game is really fun! I’m not talking games as in messing with the guy’s head or acting like a bitch one day/not leaving his side the other, but more the playful way you get around someone you’re attracted to. Playing/goofing around is the key to a happy relationship. No matter how old we are! I can get very silly at times and love, love, love when the guy can play along. It’s also very exciting when things are still unknown. You’re still discovering that other person and what makes them tick. The mystery, intrigue and all that good stuff.

One month almost down. Two more to go.

Sigh.

Entry filed under: Floating. Tags: break, dating sabbatical, discovery, playfulness, relationships.